Liking

Liking

Liking someone is not finding someone who fits into your 'idealized' mould perfectly but it is about being able to accept the person for who he/she is and at the same time, love it.

Of course, having a mould such as 'being considerate and patient' and so on, in my personal opinion is of utmost importance as it concerns the character but factors such as must be 'e.g. this height of 189cm, dark, look like blah blah sophisticated & pretty & talented and so on'.. to me, those are factors that are too 'on the surface' to give you happiness.

and yet, sadly many people is obsessed about the latter . it is one thing having a baseline for these features and another thing to be completely specific and pursue it blindly. honestly.

i used to have an irritation when people make such specific requirements as it seemed to be so demanding and that they did not consider how it might be like if someone is assessing them in such a manner too. BUT now i suppressed that irritation and is not even mildly bothered by such requests.

However, i am truly surprised by the fact that few people would 'truly' consider the quality of the relationship to be the most important. To me, there is no such thing as 'i am being too lazy to do this for him/her' and so on, leaving 'if he/she love me, he/she will not mind that i am lazy' as an excuse. Love itself is a 'motivator' and these few small incidents of feeling lazy may cause the other party to feel that he/she is being taken for granted & thus affect the quality of the relationship. Of course, demand what you can give. That is only fair.

Relationship should be like wine - the older it is, the richer it gets.